Helpful Tips To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

a couple breaking upIf your partner has left you, but you aren’t quite sure what caused the break-up, or you just aren’t ready to let the relationship end, then there can often be a lot of confusion as to what you should do.

Do you try to make it work with him and convince him to stay, or should you just let him go?

Knowing when and how to get your ex boyfriend to come back to you is one of the biggest concerns that woman have once the relationship has come to an end, according to the American Dating Society’s website.

The following tips may prove helpful for you to get your ex boyfriend back into your life.

1. Give It A Little Time

Obviously, if your ex has just finished things with you, then they more than likely feel the need for some space away from the relationship at the moment. Whether a particular event (like cheating) caused the break-up or if there is no definable reason, they are still likely to be needing some space alone for a while.

So the best thing to do at this stage is to give them what they need and back off for a little while. If you keep badgering him, you will simply come across as desperate or could even be perceived as a pain in the ass or a stalker.

A good rule to follow is the no contact rule, which basically states not to have any contact with your ex for around thirty days following the breakup. This can give you both some much needed breathing space and allow you time to re-group, reflect and re-consider what it really is that you are wanting from a relationship.

Once a couple has had this space, they are far more likely to be in a better position to know what they want. If it does in fact turn out that they still want to be with you, then this time away will have helped them realise that fact and more deeply value you as a person, the relationship and have a stronger connection with you long-term.

2. Make Your Feelings Clear

While you shouldn’t harass your ex, you do need to make it clear to them how you feel and that you want them back in your life. Don’t send a text message or an email, rather see them face to face if they are willing. Meeting in person is more personal, and it also shows that you are more serious about the message that you are delivering to them.

If they aren’t willing to meet you in person for whatever reason, send them a handwritten letter, perhaps with a thoughtful gift, making your feelings clear. Don’t do this repeatedly or you might end up pushing them further away.

A handwritten letter conveys a far deeper meaning than a text message or an email.

3. Take Responsibility

If your actions are to blame for the break-up, own up to the facts and apologize. Make sure that your apology is genuine. If their actions are the reason for the break-up, you may still have played a role in the events so take responsibility for this. Let them apologize for their actions and forgive, forget and move on if you are able to.

If you cannot determine the cause of the break-up, ask your ex for an explanation. This is important to repair the relationship and even if your ex doesn’t come back, will provide you with much necessary closure. If an explanation is not forthcoming, evaluate the relationship to identify what went wrong and try to make amends.

4. Make Them Jealous

making the ex jealousThis does NOT mean that you should go out and enter into a relationship with another person in the hopes that jealousy will drive your ex back into your arms. This tactic often has the opposite effect in fact, and can make you look rather pathetic if your tactics are discovered or obvious.

Rather show them that you are doing well without them and that they are missing out by not being with you. Buy a new outfit, change your hairstyle or find a new hobby or activity that you enjoy and that your ex may be interested in.

By going out with your friends more often and posting pictures of your fun times with them on Facebook and Instagram can show that you are getting along fine on your own. You don’t need to post images of you with another guy or girl; it can be as simple as showing that you are having a great time hanging out with your friends and doing things that you perhaps were not doing before because you were in a relationship.

Giving your ex a reason to come back is often more successful than begging and pleading. If there is any interest at all left on their part, soon they are likely to become curious about you and what you are up to. They will want to know what you have been doing and who you have been spending your time with.

If your ex does start to ask you this kind of questions, then it is definitely a good sign! Just play it cool and see where the conversation goes from there. At this stage, you may be in a good position to ask your ex to meet up for a catch-up.

Learn The 4 Most Common Reasons For A Relationship Breakup

arguing-coupleRelationship breakups are never fun for either party. Whether it be ditching a romantic partner, getting burned by a former friend, or even estranged with a family member, the rejected party can be left stunned, confused as to what went wrong, and even spiral into a state of depression.

When relationships break down, self-esteem can often take a hit while an individual seeks answers as to why it happened and what went wrong. To help you make sense of things, keep reading to learn the four most common reasons for a relationship breakup.

Loss of Interest

1) It is fairly common in relationships that after a while, and typically after the romance stage, a person may find that they just aren’t into their partner as much as they once were.

This can often just be a physical thing as the romance starts to fizzle out. However, it can also be due to one or a combination of five primary issues that can negatively effect a relationship.

Research has indicated that this is the reason for almost half of relationships falling apart. Even in marriages where partners took a lifelong commitment, there can be the possibility of just falling out of love further down the line. If there is no emotional connection or spiritual spark left, physical proximity and intimacy is not enough to retain a relationship long-term.

This issue often (but not always) comes down to two things;

A). One or both partners just not having a deeper understanding of themselves and what they truly want in a relationship and from another person. As a result, they pick someone with whom they may be physically attracted to at first, but they are just not compatible for a long-term relationship. Often, this is due to the individuals in the relationship holding different values and different aspirations for their lives.

B). One or both of the people in the relationship have changed, and the other has not changed in the same direction. This can often happen when one person embarks on an entirely new career path or decides to go back to school to re-train.

Cheating

2) Someone cheated in the relationship. In romantic relationships, one person cheating on the other can prove such betrayal and so corrosive to the trust that the relationship just cannot recover.

Cheating sexually is not just a violation of the commitment in a monogamous relationship, but also potentially dangerous in this day and age for several reasons. A woman who cheats might become pregnant, and a man who cheats with a women might father a child that is not of his wife.a couple cheatingIf any sexual activity is unprotected, transmission of disease is always a high possibility. Not only are you putting yourself at risk, but you also endanger your long-term partner the next time you sleep with them.

When the cheating partner gets found out by their other half, it has been done so many times by the non-cheating partner to contract an STD from their supposedly faithful significant other. This just adds insult to injury and is an even more devastating way for the innocent partner to find out.

Some relationships recover from this, but many do not.

Breaking of Trust

3. A third of all relationships that end, end because of some kind of lying, or not telling the truth. A romantic relationship is among the most vulnerable there is, where you open up to someone and trust them with your most intimate details. Getting lied to about anything serious, or just anything you take seriously, can hurt a lot, especially when it comes from someone you thought your better half or your soulmate.

This does not necessarily have to be cheating, but lying in general, and especially about the thing that is very important to the other person.

Arguing

4. Constant bickering and fighting can often kill a relationship fairly quickly. Being with someone you love should ideally be about enjoying each other’s company. And while no relationship is happy every moment of every day, when there seems to be hate and anger more often than love, the negative emotions often win.

There are some people that find an argument in a relationship to be very stimulating and passionate. However, if such a person is involved with someone who does not feel the same way about arguing then the relationship will likely fall apart very quickly.

Not all relationship breakups happen for these four reasons alone, but many commonly do. Other possibilities include bad sex lives, a desire to be single again, and one person moving away to a different town or even country, perhaps due to work commitments.

If any of these top four breakup reasons are a possibility in your relationship, then look for ways you can resolve them as quickly as possible if you want to stay with your partner long-term.

If you’re still scratching your head about why your relationship may have come to an end because the above points don’t seem to apply to your relationship, then take a look at this video for some more reasons why relationships fall apart.