Relationship breakups are never fun for either party. Whether it be ditching a romantic partner, getting burned by a former friend, or even estranged with a family member, the rejected party can be left stunned, confused as to what went wrong, and even spiral into a state of depression.
When relationships break down, self-esteem can often take a hit while an individual seeks answers as to why it happened and what went wrong. To help you make sense of things, keep reading to learn the four most common reasons for a relationship breakup.
Loss of Interest
1) It is fairly common in relationships that after a while, and typically after the romance stage, a person may find that they just aren’t into their partner as much as they once were.
This can often just be a physical thing as the romance starts to fizzle out. However, it can also be due to one or a combination of five primary issues that can negatively effect a relationship.
Research has indicated that this is the reason for almost half of relationships falling apart. Even in marriages where partners took a lifelong commitment, there can be the possibility of just falling out of love further down the line. If there is no emotional connection or spiritual spark left, physical proximity and intimacy is not enough to retain a relationship long-term.
This issue often (but not always) comes down to two things;
A). One or both partners just not having a deeper understanding of themselves and what they truly want in a relationship and from another person. As a result, they pick someone with whom they may be physically attracted to at first, but they are just not compatible for a long-term relationship. Often, this is due to the individuals in the relationship holding different values and different aspirations for their lives.
B). One or both of the people in the relationship have changed, and the other has not changed in the same direction. This can often happen when one person embarks on an entirely new career path or decides to go back to school to re-train.
2) Someone cheated in the relationship. In romantic relationships, one person cheating on the other can prove such betrayal and so corrosive to the trust that the relationship just cannot recover.
Cheating sexually is not just a violation of the commitment in a monogamous relationship, but also potentially dangerous in this day and age for several reasons. A woman who cheats might become pregnant, and a man who cheats with a women might father a child that is not of his wife.If any sexual activity is unprotected, transmission of disease is always a high possibility. Not only are you putting yourself at risk, but you also endanger your long-term partner the next time you sleep with them.
When the cheating partner gets found out by their other half, it has been done so many times by the non-cheating partner to contract an STD from their supposedly faithful significant other. This just adds insult to injury and is an even more devastating way for the innocent partner to find out.
Some relationships recover from this, but many do not.
Breaking of Trust
3. A third of all relationships that end, end because of some kind of lying, or not telling the truth. A romantic relationship is among the most vulnerable there is, where you open up to someone and trust them with your most intimate details. Getting lied to about anything serious, or just anything you take seriously, can hurt a lot, especially when it comes from someone you thought your better half or your soulmate.
This does not necessarily have to be cheating, but lying in general, and especially about the thing that is very important to the other person.
4. Constant bickering and fighting can often kill a relationship fairly quickly. Being with someone you love should ideally be about enjoying each other’s company. And while no relationship is happy every moment of every day, when there seems to be hate and anger more often than love, the negative emotions often win.
There are some people that find an argument in a relationship to be very stimulating and passionate. However, if such a person is involved with someone who does not feel the same way about arguing then the relationship will likely fall apart very quickly.
Not all relationship breakups happen for these four reasons alone, but many commonly do. Other possibilities include bad sex lives, a desire to be single again, and one person moving away to a different town or even country, perhaps due to work commitments.
If any of these top four breakup reasons are a possibility in your relationship, then look for ways you can resolve them as quickly as possible if you want to stay with your partner long-term.
If you’re still scratching your head about why your relationship may have come to an end because the above points don’t seem to apply to your relationship, then take a look at this video for some more reasons why relationships fall apart.